When is good, enough?
Category: expectation
Latent Lollygagger: Carry That Weight
Yesterday, I had the realization that I’ve been carrying around something since a very young age, and I’m only now feeling the true weight of it, and how much it slows me down.
Latent Lollygagger: Harder than it looks
That space between being prepared and doing the thing is where I create a lot of my own anxiety. Where I make it hard. Where I fall for my reptilian brain interpreting fear as something to avoid at all costs instead of jumping into.
Latent Lollygagger: Setting the Bar
If the bars I set for myself turn into expectations, then no wonder I can’t celebrate clearing them. And even if I set the bar really high for myself (which I know I do), then anything less becomes a failure. It means I define failure as anything less than the absolute best. It means I define success as doing what is expected of me. There is no room for celebration in that equation.
Latent Lollygagger: Take it Easy
“Maybe I have an expectation that if only I do things right, then things will be easier… and the converse therefore is true, if things are hard then I’m not doing something right.”
Latent Lollygagger: The Journey
A lesson in balance: creating the conditions for success but then detaching from the outcome.
Latent Lollygagger: To should or not to should
Some words give us confidence and courage. The word “should” is not one of them.
Latent Lollygagger: I Suppose
Who or what gets to define “suppose to” in our lives?
Tuesday Morning Coffee: Home Sick
What to do when that list of "shoulds" interferes with a sick day.
Tuesday Morning Coffee: Jumping In
It’s a simple equation, though: discomfort = growth. As is unknown = scary.
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