The difference between being in immediate survival mode and a more sustainable survival mode, and the grief we need to allow ourselves to experience to move from one to the other.
We cannot skip this limbo stage. We cannot jump from old to new without a period of transition, which can become a period of metamorphosis if we only let it.
So the pressure is a bully, reminding me that, no matter what, I am a failure. And it tells me that what I AM doing isn’t enough.
Sometimes, the only thing that will move a desire along is by adopting a motto.
What it feels like to not feel like doing the things I want to do.
There is nothing I desire from life that will come by filling my time with shoulds and busyness.
One of the great perks of writing about my depression has been the connections I’ve made with others in the same space. One of these new friends is Kristian Hall. Kristian suffered through 11 years of depression as a teenager and student. He was able to overcome the illness by way of science-based methods such as cognitive behavioral therapy and positive psychology. Kristian is on a mission to help as many as possible to overcome depression. On his blog, kristianhall.com, you will find tips and techniques you can follow on your own path out of the illness. Kristian has also written several books, including his latest: 14 Steps to Happiness, which is a comprehensive science-based program to overcome depression. I’m pleased to offer you Kristian’s story, written in his own words, in today’s special article.
What does my perfectionism feel like? Like a pinch in the stomach Like a building up of pressure Like guilt Like shame Like fear Like a worm
In this month's essay, I explore the link between perfectionism and depression, and how they feed each other through my inner voices.
Control is the gold at the end of the rainbow, which keeps moving the closer you get. It seems like an actual place, where you can go and be bathed in rainbow light and claim its treasure. My perfectionism assures me that if I just keep trying, I’ll get to the end.