The entire battle of perfectionism is that it sets up an impossible conflict: being perfect versus real life. Real life will win every time.
Tag: depression
Depression in a Time of Covid
What depression has taught me—and maybe can teach you—about how to function in this crisis without losing all hope. Published on Medium: https://medium.com/@bankoferin/depression-in-a-time-of-covid-c4d0046052b9
Latent Lollygagger: My Morning Shadow
The shadow makes it hard to do anything, let alone be curious about why it’s hard to do anything. It knows that the minute I start questioning its existence, it will lose power and fade away. It pushes me so deeply into the swirl of everything, that it’s hard to separate myself from the shadow.
Latent Lollygagger: Daily Gratitude
For me, there are two important elements related to these daily gratitudes that help me with the way my brain seems to be wired, and to help me feel less like I’m passively drifting through my life rather than being IN my life fully.
Latent Lollygagger Blog: When You Can’t Look Back or Forward, Look Around
Gratitude and appreciation sometimes feel like one of those boxes—and it can be even more depressing to think that having gratitude and appreciation is a motion to go through. Is it really gratitude if I don’t _feel_ it in my bones? I think the answer has to be yes. Just like a run still counts if it isn’t the run
Latent Lollygagger: ’Tis the Season
Striving for better has been a characteristic that’s brought me a lot of success and reward. But I tend to see those rewards as obligatory, not as something to celebrate. Because they’re rewards for things I “should” be doing anyway.
Latent Lollygagger: Singing in the Rain
My brain can be trained to notice the feelings as something apart from me, clouds floating through the sky, sometimes maybe bringing rain or a storm. As in real life, we can grumble at the rain, take shelter from the storm, but inherently understand it’s part of our life here on Earth, that the rain is needed for life. We don’t analyze what we could have done to stop the rain from happening.
