We cannot skip this limbo stage. We cannot jump from old to new without a period of transition, which can become a period of metamorphosis if we only let it.
So the pressure is a bully, reminding me that, no matter what, I am a failure. And it tells me that what I AM doing isn’t enough.
This movement is not about white people. We are supporters and allies. We are not the movement.
Instead of reading my words today, please consider those of BIPOC writing about what is going on right now. Start with these two actions.
Sometimes, the only thing that will move a desire along is by adopting a motto.
What it feels like to not feel like doing the things I want to do.
There is nothing I desire from life that will come by filling my time with shoulds and busyness.
One of the great perks of writing about my depression has been the connections I’ve made with others in the same space. One of these new friends is Kristian Hall. Kristian suffered through 11 years of depression as a teenager and student. He was able to overcome the illness by way of science-based methods such as cognitive behavioral therapy and positive psychology. Kristian is on a mission to help as many as possible to overcome depression. On his blog, kristianhall.com, you will find tips and techniques you can follow on your own path out of the illness. Kristian has also written several books, including his latest: 14 Steps to Happiness, which is a comprehensive science-based program to overcome depression. I’m pleased to offer you Kristian’s story, written in his own words, in today’s special article.
It’s hard to think about desire when it seems the world is upside down and inside out. But - what if we could think about desire not as productivity, but as keeping the littlest of sparks in us alive?
The first step in anything big and scary is usually rocky. It looks huge. My perfectionism convinces me I can’t take that leap, but look over here, here’s a safe thing you can do instead that is guaranteed to go well and you won’t trip and fall.